In a recent interview, Ms. Nur Masturah Binti Mohamad Arif, a Psychology Officer at IIUM Pagoh Campus, shed light on the nuanced approach required in supporting men dealing with burnout. Addressing the notion that men might prefer handling burnout independently, she emphasized that burnout knows no gender boundaries and affects individuals regardless of gender.
“Men experiencing burnout is indeed normal and a serious concern highlighted by the World Health Organization,” stated Ms. Masturah. She highlighted the importance of practicality in addressing burnout, suggesting partners inquire about the duration of the burnout phase as a means of understanding and planning for support.
For instance, “I’ll give you time and space, but for how long? One day? Three days?”
Regarding the approach to understanding their need for space during burnout, Ms. Masturah advised forming a mutual agreement with the individual. She urged against assuming what being a good partner means and emphasized the need for both parties to come to an agreement on how to navigate through the burnout phase.
Quoting her words, “In the case of handling a partner who burns out, it is not how you think what a good partner will do. But, it is how your partner thinks, what a good partner will do.” She also passed along a tip, which is to be asked, “How can I help you in this situation?”
“When men are dealing with burnout, respecting their desire for solitude is beneficial, but it’s equally important to offer support,” she asserted. Ms. Masturah emphasized the significance of reassurance and words of affirmation during such times, acknowledging that doubt is common among individuals experiencing burnout.
Regarding effective assistance in the recovery process, she highlighted the importance of being present when possible and offering reassurance. However, Ms. Masturah stressed the need for a tailored approach, steering clear of clichéd questions and instead focusing on individual needs.
“Have you eaten? Did you take a shower? Do you want to do anything?” This cliche questions can help us to determine our partner’s progress in their daily routine, and you can deduct how they are doing recently.
In conclusion, Ms. Masturah provided valuable insights into supporting men dealing with burnout, emphasizing the need for a balanced approach between respecting their need for solitude and offering unwavering support and reassurance.
She urged for a personalized approach, acknowledging that each individual’s response to burnout differs and requires tailored support strategies for effective recovery.
The interview highlighted the importance of a nuanced understanding of burnout, regardless of gender, and the significance of providing empathetic, personalized support to aid in the recovery process.
We also agreed that the tips and information given can be applied to others, friends, family members, co-workers despite their genders.
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